Tuesday, August 10, 2010
The writer complains that his wife refuses to charge the son rent, and pays for his car, insurance and cell phone. The father had to kick the son's girl friend out of the house and stopped the son from " filching beer from our refrigerator." His wife tells the writer to cool it when he gets upset. Meanwhile, two younger brothers are beginning to play follow the leader with their deadbeat slacker older bro.
Is it just me, or is everyone seeing more and more twenty somethings who are freeloading off of their parents with their parents' cooperation? (You can discount the parents' complaining about the kids - after all, that's what their children do). Of course, the fact that the father in this case complains about his wife but does nothing to stop her from enabling the son might remind readers of my blog post of March 9, 2010 about younger children, Recipe for Producing Frequent Tantrums in Children. The parents' behavior, as time goes on, produces the future Freddies and Minnies.
I am certain that if these twenty somethings were dragged to many psychiatrists, they would be immediately diagnosed as "Adult ADHD" or some other bullsh*t diagnosis.
Why do children react to their parents enabling behavior in this crazy way? My theory is that, because the parents compulsively do everything for their kids and expect nothing from them, their kids get the idea that providing for children is an extremely vital activity for their parents. If the parents fight over what to do with the kids but never come to any kind of agreement or compromise, the kids think they like to do that as well. Far be it from children to deprive their parents of a cherished role.
Do children really give a damn about what their parents expect from them? Readers, what do you think about all of this?