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Monday, April 15, 2019

How Good Psychiatrists Evaluate New Patients




If you think you might need psychiatric medications, here's the minimum of what the doctors should cover in a GOOD evaluation. If they do not, FIND ANOTHER PSYCHIATRIST:

1. They should spend at least 45 minutes to an hour in the initial interview.

2. When asking about your symptoms, they should pin you down as to exactly when and in which psychosocial circumstances you experience them. To be relevant to any diagnosis, all symptoms should be present at the same time and significantly affect you over more than just short periods.

Major mood disorders such as true major depression and mania are grossly over-diagnosed nowadays. The symptoms of these disorders are pervasive: you have to have them nearly all day nearly every day no matter what else is going on in your environment. Major depressive episodes need to last for at least two weeks straight, while mania requires a whole week. While these “duration” criteria are arbitrary, they are in the diagnostic criteria to distinguish major mood disorders from emotional reactions to purely environmental changes or relationship problems.

During a major mood disorder episode, your reactions to everyday stress should also be completely different from your usual, baseline reactions (how you react to your environment when you are not in a mood episode). They should also be out of character for you - Jeckyl and Hyde territory.

Mood and anxiety disorder diagnoses can NOT be made definitively if you are actively using psychoactive substances. Intoxication with drugs like cocaine can, for instance, mimic mania.

Stressors can trigger a new mood episode, but once episodes happen, they take on a life of their own.

3. The doctor should do a psychiatric "review of systems" to ask questions to rule out (at the minimum) a history of mania, substance abuse, panic attacks, OCD, and self-injurious behavior. 

They should ask you about whether there is a family history (among blood relatives, not adoptive relatives) of psychiatric problems or substance abuse. They should also ask you for your medical history and medications you take to try to rule out medical reasons for your symptoms.

In particular, panic attack symptoms are often ignored or falsely classified as symptoms of a mood disorder.

4. They should take a COMPLETE psychosocial history covering your family constellation, parental behavior, any parental divorces and subsequent marriages, any history of abuse or neglect, how far you went in school, and a complete history of your employment and relationships.
This part of the history has almost disappeared from psychiatry, blurring the distinction between psychological reactions and major mental illnesses.

A history of adverse childhood experiences such as abuse, neglect, violence, substance abuse or infidelity by parents can put you at risk for personality problems, low moods, anxiety problems or many other psychological symptoms. Again, a traumatic environment can trigger chronic problems that medication can help, but psychotherapy is the more important treatment. Even if your psychiatrist only prescribes medication, he or she should still refer you to a therapist in these instances. A good psychiatrist will focus on ALL the relevant variables amenable to different treatments and not focus myopically on just your symptoms.

5. If you are having trouble focusing or concentrating, this alone does not mean you have “ADHD.” You can have this symptom due to stress, sleep deprivation, boredom, preoccupation with something, or a wide variety of other reasons. A good doctor will ask questions to rule out these causes rather than just throw dangerous stimulants like Adderall (a methamphetamine clone) at you. 

6. If medications are prescribed, they should tell you what the most common side effects are, and if there are any dangerous ones even if they are rare, and also tell you that if you think you are having an adverse effect, that you should call the doctor's office.



Wednesday, March 27, 2019

Guest Post: Borderline Family Dynamics Up Close





Today's guest post is by Lin. The writer recounts her own experience growing up in a family with issues that lead to Borderline Personality Disorder 


I was born into a highly dysfunctional family, consisting of my parents, my very domineering and generally narcissistic grandmother, and my alcoholic uncle. My parents both had physical and mental health issues and, in hindsight, I can clearly see that my mother had untreated Borderline Personality Disorder.

After my mother had 7 miscarriages and one stillbirth, they had been told that they couldn't have children. Therefore, they had planned their future without children. When I came along it was a shock; they both overjoyed to have me and also shaken that they suddenly had a new responsibility that they never thought they would have. Because I was an at risk pregnancy, I was born 8 weeks early by cesarean and, due to my mother's unstable mental health, she was unable to see me for 6 weeks. Instead I was kept in hospital while they stabilized me and I only had contact with the staff and, on his occasional visits, with my father.

From the outset I was the perfect baby. I seldom cried or asked for attention and was usually compliant. I talked and walked at an early age and was reading by the time I was 3. My earliest memory is of being that age and in my pushchair. I had a pacifier in my mouth and saw my mother walking towards my father and myself.

I remember the fear and shame of her possibly seeing me using it and I quickly hid it under a blanket. I already had learned not to upset her and felt that I was bad. I learned to hide what I did and felt.

My mother sexually abused me from the earliest age I can remember until I was 16 years old. I am sure my father was aware of it because he had a separate bed in the same room that my mother and I shared. She made me pray to God afterwards and ask for forgiveness for making her do it. She told me if I told anyone she would leave me. The abuse was the only form of physical touch I had—she never hugged me or told me she loved me or was affectionate in any way. Instead, she would buy me anything I wanted. Toys every Sunday, sugary foods in a large quantity every Thursday. I just had to ask and I would get it. All the while the abuse continued every night. I learned sexual abuse meant my mother would stay with me and I learned to equate material possessions and food with love.

I was told we were family and didn't need strangers. Strangers were the enemy. This meant I was not allowed to have friends. I was never allowed out without a parent; I was dropped off at school and picked up every lunchtime and at the end of the day in order to minimize my interaction with others. My father did have a sister but my mother forbade him from seeing her. During the times my mother was in hospital, he would take me to visit her always, saying "Don't tell anyone."

My father would often do bizarre things, such as once telling me we were going to play a game with my mother and pretend that he had been mugged on the way home from work. I thought this was a great game and having secrets with my father made me feel close to him. I learned to lie for attention.

My mother would either be very weak or overbearingly strong—sometimes both at the same time. She ruled me with a rod of iron—I always had to be perfect or I would be told I was nothing to her and then physically beaten. At the same time she appeared incredibly weak. I remember a 4 year old child once swore at her and she cried like a baby. I despised her weakness and sensed she did too, so I learned to make her angry instead at these times so we would both feel better. I learned how to manipulate her as she had manipulated me.

My mother would have frequent psychotic episodes [She was diagnosed with episodes of psychotic depression]. Either me or my father would force anti-psychotics into her mouth. She would hear voices stating we were trying to kill her and fight back. The first time I witnessed that was late at night when I was 6 years old. I ran to the corner of the bedroom in terror while my father held her down as she lashed out at him. Once she was calm my father told me I could join her in bed again. I shook my head, terrified to go near her. My father turned out the lights and went to bed himself, leaving me sitting in the corner of our bedroom all night, alone. I learned that I could be abandoned without comfort from those closest to me at any time.

By the time I was 12 I had learned to give back what they gave to me. They had taught me well. I became better at constant manipulation and control than they were. My father developed congestive heart failure and became physically weak. I would fight with him constantly to make him fight back and be strong again. My mother's mental health was worsening and she blamed my father’s lack of care now that he was ill. I learned to agree with her about how bad he was and thus make her feel stronger.

My father eventually took his own life on my 13th birthday, leaving me alone with my mother. My mother became totally dependent on me. The same spoiling behaviors I had learned would continue for the next 5 years. I would attempt to strengthen her when she was weak and weaken her when she was strong. I did not understand why I was doing this, behaving in a purely instinctual way in order to provide what we both needed. Even though we fought constantly, I was still being sexually abused by her and given whatever material things I wanted. During psychotic episodes, my mother would sob and state that her baby had been replaced at birth by a changeling of the Devil. As a Devil's spawn, I was going to murder her just as I had murdered my father. I believed I was evil and hated myself.

By the time I was 18, I had been in psychotherapy for several years. It had been arranged for me after I had told other children at school that my father had died a year before he actually had. I hated him for not stopping my mother and wanted him dead—the worst punishment I could think of. I became more aware of my motivations and becoming aware that I had a choice as to how I reacted. I moved away from home, only visiting my mother sporadically. She never ever forgave me for choosing strangers over her. Our relationship continued to be very difficult, with me despising her weakness and trying to make her strong, and her despising my new found strength and trying to make me weak. I cut her off entirely when I was 20 and she took her own life a month later. I still struggle with the guilt and self-blame for both my parents suicides.

This is all that I learned and why I have Borderline Personality Disorder.

Wednesday, February 20, 2019

Book Review: The Misinformation Age by Cailin O’Conner and James Owen Weatherall



This interesting and highly recommended book about the spread and persistence of false beliefs covers a subject that is both near and dear to my heart and something I write about extensively. Most of the book does not go into the types of false beliefs with political overtones that seem to infest our Facebook feeds, although the authors allude to it, but focuses instead on how false beliefs about science come about and then spread among scientists and the general public alike. 

Of particular interest to me is Chapter 3, The Evangelization of People, which focuses on the way large commercial interests have studied the behavior of scientists and have learned how to manipulate them effectively for profit.

In recent years I have developed a strong interest in “Groupthink” – the type of thinking in which people ignore the evidence of their own eyes, ears, and logic in order to argue for something that either justifies group norms or leads to an enhancement of a group’s political, ideological, or financial interests or the interests of group leaders. 

My curiosity originally stems from my observations that self-destructive people cannot possibly be hurting themselves out of “selfish” motives if they are not mad, bad, or stupid. Instead, they are finding ways to sacrifice themselves for the seeming good of their families.

The latter idea is not accepted by the vast majority of practitioners and academics in the mental health and biological evolution fields, where a wide variety of only partly-logical theories have often taken root. My frustration in promoting my own idea led to my becoming interested in the phenomenon of groupthink in science, which turned out to be a far greater problem than I had originally thought. In fact, I am currently co-editing a multi-authored book about groupthink in science, in which practitioners from widely diverse academic disciplines focus on quite a few different manifestations of it.

While groupthink in families and in professional groups share a lot in common, there is one fundamental difference. Scientists, while they may belong to some sort of profession fraternity, are usually not related biologically. Nor are the scientists usually all members of the same ethnic group or even the same nation. It is the biological connection which makes the family system so powerful over its members that they are willing to sacrifice themselves. Scientists are not under that sort of pressure.

The book basically starts with a discussion of how ideas generally spread among those scientists who are trying to find truths but who are most often complete strangers to one another. Most scientists communicate directly with just a few colleagues and find out what the others are thinking by reading their articles in professional journals. They only occasionally actually hear these others in person, usually at professional conventions. 

Although scientists can often be more easily swayed by colleagues they know personally than by those they do not, a scientist’s overall reputation in a particular field plays a big part. The behavior of people in “communication networks” like these is examined, and it is this understanding that is being used by commercial interests, sometimes for clearly nefarious purposes.

What’s amazing is that, although companies can hire fraudulent scientists to consciously do studies that skew the data in industry’s favor, they do not have to mess with the science that way at all. In fact, they can skew the data without any direct input into any scientist’s work. One of the big ways is through selective reporting of real data – they push the science that works in their favor with politicians and the public while not mentioning the contradictory studies, even when the contradictory studies vastly outnumber the ones in their favor.

An ingenious way to accomplish this is through grant funding. Science is such that there will in most cases be a variety of studies with different conclusions. Industry can pick those scientists whose work is in their favor and provide them with grants and other funding. Independent grant funding, as from governments, is relatively more rare and hard to come by. Science can be very expensive to do. Therefore, industry-funded studies become more likely to be completed and then published than those funded elsewhere, making them appear more generalized than they actually are. 

Then there is a snowball effect where success breeds success. The more studies they publish, the more likely the scientists will be to attract students who then follow in their biased footsteps.

Scientists who later learn they have been duped may be too embarrassed to publicly admit it.

An interesting side issue the authors bring up concerns what does and does not get published. Different fields have different thresholds for how much data a given study must contain in order to meet their prevailing standard for publication. It is disconcerting but hardly surprising that the authors single out neuroscience and psychology for having much lower standards than other fields. Readers who follow my blog will have many examples of this from which to choose.

Tuesday, January 29, 2019

Guest Post: My Experiences with Family Dysfunction and Therapists - Anonymous





Editor’s note: This guest post came in response to my request for stories from those on my Facebook  fan page who had a bad experience with therapists who seemed to think that all of their problems were in their heads (for example, poor distress tolerance, irrational thoughts, or anger issues) and had little to do with other people who were stressing them out or pissing them off.


When I was 6 or 7, a neighbor (age 17 or 18), took me into his house "to play a game." He blindfolded me, made me kneel, and took his penis out for me to suck. The blindfold wasn't properly attached so I was able to figure out what he was doing. Afterwards - and after the mandatory "don't tell anyone" - I told my grandma, who then informed my parents.

Now, my mom certainly has her own issues. She hates being touched, always tends to think only about herself, is obsessed with TV shows, tends to be depressed and spends most of her free time in her room, and has a very high fear of going to the doctor - even though she is one! My Dad was certainly narcissistic (as you'll see it in a minute), so they both decided it was best to sweep it under the rug.

Years later, when I was 12, I had my dad's brother pull me close while dancing in order to rub his large stomach against my budding breasts.  Thinking back, I later realized that my Dad never ever let me stay with my cousins. My mom then confirmed that his brother is a pedophile. His poor, poor stepdaughter from my aunt's previous relationship! My dad must've known this, yet when I was raped, his answer was...to become my rapist's godfather!!!

My dad - and mom - made me go to my rapist's Confirmation (a Catholic ritual for teens) a year after my rape. We remained neighbors, and my Dad had weekly breakfasts with that family. No, I am not kidding. When I was 8 or 9, my mom bought a house two doors down from my grandparents...but only she and my dad moved out. I was told to stay with my grandparents "because I would be more comfortable there, and we need money to build a second floor." They never did.

My Dad was never steadily employed. I caught him kissing the maid when I was almost 13. So my mom, who at that time was working in a different region, came back home and told him to get out. He then blamed me for the "breakup of our family." I was also sexually harassed several times as a teen, but I never told my mom or grandma because my grandma told me I was "dirty" because I was still talking and playing with that neighbor. Why would I stop? NO ONE bothered to explain that what had happened to me was sexual abuse.

My uncle on my mom’s side slapped me when I was 13 for defending his teen housekeeper, and my aunt and mom (after I had come back home) wept but said nothing. Again, no one talked to me about what had happened. My dad got cancer when I was 17 and I asked him to come home. His siblings were robbing him and not taking care of him. He initially rejected our offer. Only when he knew for certain that his siblings were taking important property deeds (he owned a house in the mountains. I am Peruvian), did he finally agreed to come back to be looked after by us. He was bitter and scared, but was still a bad parent. I had barely seen him during the 5 years that he was not living with me - his choice, of course. I again saw him flirting with the maid during his remission. He died when I was 22.

Although I've barely ever been beaten, and no one in the family did drugs or alcohol, I nonetheless had a highly traumatic childhood. I'm a Psychology student. I am a 4-time college dropout from 3 universities. I am married now and living in Europe. I have been subjected to verbal abuse at home, but he's getting treatment. I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD, but I’m wondering if it's the right diagnosis. I do acknowledge that a trial of Concerta did show me I can do more, although I stopped after 14 days because the side effects on my mood were too much for me.

With all of this, I have also been subjected to racism and homophobia in society. I'm not a lesbian, but I "look like one,” apparently because of my very short hair and baggy pants. Once,  when I had messy hair and not-fancy clothes, I had to leave a store because of a screaming security guard who was asking me what the hell was I doing at that store (I lived in a "well-to-do" neighborhood). Where I am, racism is expressed with frowning faces and rude attitudes from clerks. But when they see me with my White husband, I am "graciously welcomed" anywhere. I guess those two (racism and sexism) can never be escaped, but I am DAMNED sure happy I am far away from my family's dysfunction now.

At 22 I started psychoanalysis, and my therapist wanted me to focus on forgiving my parents.

Later, I did CBT, and that psychologist wanted me to focus on my goals, when all I could think of was how damaging the sexual abuse had been, and how troubled I felt about being neighbors with the rapist.

I don't know what kind of treatment I received from a third therapist I took on, but he said I should focus on why I went into the neighbor's house in the first place. That was said to mean that I was starving for male attention, and I was told I should work on that.

There was that psychiatrist too, when I was 26, who I told about my anxiety and possible ADHD, He said I should just take it easy, that no one is supposed to demand too much of themselves and that is okay not to accomplish everything I want. He added that it's all about "finding contentment." I felt that that one was sexist AND racist.

My parents and I went to ONE session of family therapy when I was 16, but as soon as the therapist pointed out to my parents their troublesome, inattentive behavior towards me, we stopped going.

So from my experience, what I learned is that even people with the best intentions (or at least who are supposed to have them) will try to redirect you to what they think it's best for you, instead of actually listening to you. Validate your own feelings, and after that, inform yourself  both about what psychology says about your own experiences AND about how to pick a good therapist. Work from there. Too many uninformed people will spout their opinions, whether they are family or professionals.

Wednesday, January 2, 2019

Book Review: The Kevin Show by Mary Pilon





In this impressively well written book – I may have to steal a few of her cool phrases, like when she discusses situations in which people walking on eggshells start to feel more like they are walking on landmines – Mary Pilon tells the story of Kevin Hall and his family. Kevin Hall was a championship sailor who on one occasion made the Olympic Team, although he did not win a medal. At the same time, he struggled with Bipolar Disorder. The real illness, not what passes for bipolar disorder these days.

The author’s discussions of what went on inside of Hall’s head during a manic episode are some of the best I’ve ever seen. After reading them, readers will know that this has absolutely nothing in common with normal human thinking. After coming down off of a manic high, a sufferer knows that. Although they may question themselves about the “reality” of what they had experienced during an episode, it still seems to them to be bizarre and alien.

The book also does a great job of describing the traumatic effects on parents, spouses, and siblings in having to deal with a family member with a major mental illness – especially one who is not always cooperative with treatment but doesn’t let them know when he goes off his meds.

Hall’s delusion when manic was that he was some part of a larger “Show,” run by some all-knowing “Director”  - sort of like the movie “Truman Show,’ which indeed is mentioned several times in the book -  in which he is meant to save the world by interpreting various “signs” in the environment. The signs could be things he happened to see in the environment, unusual coincidences like his having been a college classmate of one of the doctors who treated him, song lyrics, or passages in various books he liked to read.

Unfortunately the author, who seems only to have a limited  familiarity with mental illness and, in particular, the treatment of manic-depressive illness, falls a bit into the trap of starting to wonder if it may just be some variation of normal. After all, with the rise of Instagram, selfies, and social media, everyone is seemingly thinking of themselves as in some sort of show and as having an almost national presence in the minds of others.

Mary Pilon


Not only that, but the author adds that certain delusions are more common in certain cultures than others, and some only seem to exist in a single culture.

In fact, the difference between psychotic delusions and false beliefs that are due to groupthink, everyday human foibles, wishful thinking, and just plain kidding oneself is colossal and not in the least bit subtle. Of note is that the author spends almost no time describing Hall’s thinking during periods of bipolar depression. She only mentions one episode in which he maintained that he was depressed but not delusional - but we do not know if he ever experienced a psychotic depression.

Either way, when depressed, it is mentioned almost in passing, he believed the exact opposite of what he felt while manic – that he was a born loser, loony-bin screw-up who was worth absolutely nothing despite his fairly spectacular accomplishments in love and work while euthymic (neither manic or depressed – in other words, normal).

Hall kept going off his medication because he felt that it was drugging the real him, which is why he kept having recurrences. While I obviously can’t say for certain anything about his reasons for stopping his treatment, the frequent reason bipolar patients discontinue their meds is that mania feels so good in so many ways that normal feels like down to many sufferers, and they want the high back.

Another possibility is that he was taken off lithium -  which generally does not make people taking it feel drugged – not because it was ineffective but because the doctors thought it was ineffective when in actuality he had stopped taking it or his blood level was too low. Good doctors monitor lithium blood levels.

He was apparently put on the antipsychotic Haldol at one point, which definitely does make people feel drugged. Antipsychotics, while they do prevent mania, should only be give in acute mania (because it takes time for lithium or depakote to kick in) – and then discontinued after the other drugs start working. Or used indefinitely only if all other options fail or are not tolerated. The author does not really tell us any details about Hall's treatment.

And what about the cultural aspects of delusions? Well of course delusions concern things that people with the disorder are familiar with. You can’t think the CIA is following you around with ray guns if you have never heard of the CIA or ray guns. And just like with Alzheimer’s disease, in which underlying personality traits affect the expression of impaired memory issues and cognitive confusion, they affect the content of delusions as well. 

Pointing out the cultural differences as a possible reason that bipolar is not a real brain disease is a bit like doing the same by pointing out that the delusions of Japanese people are expressed and thought about in the Japanese language, while the delusions of Spanish people are expressed and thought about in Spanish.

Wednesday, December 5, 2018

Self Actualization, Mirroring, and Individuality




Self Actualization is a somewhat vague term that is used in slightly different ways by psychologists. Originally used by Kurt Goldstein, it is loosely defined as “the realization or fulfillment of one's talents and potentialities.” He thought we all had a drive to achieve this throughout history, and that it was of singular importance, but that is not quite correct. 

The term was then picked up by Abraham Maslow and incorporated into his hierarchy of needs, and later used by the “humanistic” schools of psychotherapy (now referred to as emotion-focused therapies) championed by Fritz Perls (gestalt therapy) and Carl Rogers (client-centered therapy).

The way that I define it is, I hope, more clear cut: It is the process by which you learn to live your life as you see fit, and not merely blindly follow your herd and going along with all of their mandates, desires for you, and beliefs irregardless of whether you, deep down, believe them or endorse them.

Another way of looking at this is that it is our ability to focus on our individualistic strivings as opposed to collectivist needs. Of course, we all need other people to one extent or another, and we cannot always follow our own “druthers” and allow our family members and tribespeople to sort of go to hell. We all have roles and functions to maintain within our groups or we’d never survive. In fact, we are all literally biologically programmed to learn “who we are” from our primary attachment figures.

We all come into the world completely helpless and with absolutely no knowledge of how the world even works, so our survival literally depends on our parents or parent-substitutes. Their survival, in turn, is dependent on other people within their tribe or kin group, who do those things of which they are incapable as well as protect them from potentially dangerous outsiders. This is why our brains develop through our interactions with them. A so-called call-and-response process with the brains of young children as this interaction progresses leads to the formation of vast numbers of new connections between brain cells.

In his classic book from the 1940’s, Escape From Freedom, Erich Fromm pointed out that our degree of inter-dependence has slowly decreased over history as culture and technology evolved. In the middle ages, as an example, you were not Joe Blow who happened to be a knight, a serf, or an artisan. Being those things was all you were, in total. There were no “individuals” to speak of!

With the industrial revolution and the Renaissance, people suddenly had time to think about other things beside basic survival needs. For the first time, they could think about their own likes and dislikes. They could think about their place in society and whether or not it really made sense. The whole culture was evolving, allowing this development.

So how could their brains do this when they were literally designed to go along with the group and think exactly what everyone else seemed to think (groupthink)? Well, that’s the nice part of having brains that are malleable. So exactly what process bridges the brain development described earlier with these new cultural developments?

One of the mechanisms by which the call-and-response process of brain formation works is called mirroring or, in a slightly different sense, validation. When we emit various behaviors spontaneously, some of them are reflected back to us, or positively reinforced, by our parents. Seeing ourselves in the eyes of our parents makes our behavior and feelings seem real to us, while if our behavior or thoughts are not mirrored, they feel unreal. The latter induces in us a highly noxious feeling called groundlessness.

In most families, some individualistic, non-conformist thoughts and behavior are mirrored. In others, being “selfish” in this way is attacked. Dysfunctional families are full of ambivalence and conflict over individualist strivings. They give off double messages, leading to confusion. Often the individualist strivings of the children are not only discouraged or disagreed with but completely invalidated as something completely insane. Even the child’s own emotions. 

When this happens, the children become trapped in behavior meant to stabilize their unstable parents – the dysfunctional family roles described in this blog. Unfortunately, the wider culture at large still has some power to mirror more individualistic behavior in them, and the conflict over rules and roles within the parents is transferred to the children.

The way out so that self actualization becomes possible is to be able is for parents and adult children to discuss this whole process constructively – a process fraught with potentially horrific dangers and difficulties. I describe that process and how to do it successfully, in my new book, Coping with Controlling, Demanding, and Dysfunctional Parents.


Thursday, November 1, 2018

My New Self Help Book is Out Today!





Are your parents constantly trying to control what you do or making incessant demands? Do they sometimes act in hateful ways that make you want to run for the hills? Do they invalidate you by questioning your intelligence, opinions, observations, or feelings?

In this new book, Dr. David Allen—an academic psychiatrist who has studied family dysfunction for over forty years—describes strategies for putting a stop to these repetitive problematic interactions.

You will learn:

1.      How to construct a family history of emotional issues (a genogram) that will help you to finally make sense of your parents’ confusing and seemingly bizarre behavior.
2.      How to use this understanding to plan strategies and counter-strategies for disarming your parents’ often formidable defenses in order to engage them in real problem solving.
3.      Effective methods for countering the ways your parents play with logic to confuse you.
4.      Effective counter-strategies for 17 different tricks they use on you to get you to shut up.
5.      How to block other relatives like siblings from getting in the way of your efforts.
6.      How your spouse or partner is embroiled in your family dysfunction, and strategies for turning him or her from a roadblock into an ally in your efforts to confront it.


Available now at:

Many brick-and-mortar Barnes and Noble bookstores.





Tuesday, October 23, 2018

Book Review: The Coddling of the American Mind by Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt





This highly recommended book addresses an extremely important issue: why the current climate we have in the States is characterized by increased and pathological polarization between various groups and subgroups, with each group vilifying the others. The authors also focus on a cultural shift on college campuses that has often led to an environment characterized by political correctness rather than free and open debate between opposing viewpoints. Groups can even turn on their own members for deviating ever so slightly from a “party line.”

The book is almost a textbook about certain processes that are characteristic of groupthink. Groupthink is when a group of people, in an effort to demonstrate harmony and unity, fail to consider alternative perspectives and ultimately adopts a shared narrative about the world which actively tries to keep out opposing viewpoints. 

Haidt, in a previous work reviewed here, pointed out that when groups of people who know each other share goals and values, this enhances “our ability to work together, divide labor, help each other, and function as a team is so all-pervasive we don’t even notice it.” He adds that “Words are inadequate to describe the emotion aroused by prolonged movement in unison that drilling involves.” 

However, sometimes groupthink goes way too far. Even supposedly objective scientists are not immune from overdoing it, which will be the subject of an upcoming book on groupthink in science I am co-editing for Springer.

Group process, in human psychology, is often at odds with our own brain’s ability to be selfish and think about what we want and believe instead of what others want us to want and believe. There is a war between individualist and collectivist tendencies within all of us. This idea is at the heart of my own therapy model, unified therapy. Its roots, in turn, are found in the model of family systems therapy formulated by Murray Bowen. 

His was the first, and is still seemingly the only other, therapy model that recognizes this basic conflict, which is found everywhere in nature. We are biologically programmed to, under certain environmental circumstances, sacrifice our own needs and beliefs – and even our very lives – for our kin or ethnic group.

The book discussed here looks at not only political correctness as an impediment for finding truth in the universe, but what they see as a related issue: why the rates of depression, anxiety, drug abuse and suicide have been rapidly increasing in college aged kids and others over the last few years. He attributes this to the adoption by large numbers of people in the Western world, particularly in the States, of what he calls “three great untruths:”

1.      The untruth of fragility: what doesn’t kill you makes you weaker.
2.      The untruth of emotional reasoning: always trust your feelings.
3.      The untruth of Us versus Them: life is a battle between good people and evil people.

When I was growing up in the 1950’s, all of the children I knew were out riding their bicycles in the neighborhood, wandering freely over significant distances, and spending much of their time engaged in free play. Many of them walked or rode their bikes to school, and baby sitters hired by parents at night could be as young as 12. What a difference from today, when someone might call the police or child protective services on you for letting a 9 year old walk home from school without adult supervision! 

Ironically, the rate of child abductions and crimes against kids was no different then than it is today, but partly because of pictures of missing kids on milk cartons and also because of widespread illiteracy about probability, today’s parents are downright paranoid.

The effect is disastrous. Human beings are, in many but of course not always, what the authors term anti-fragile. Of course, if trauma is severe or frequent, children often become more fragile and fall apart emotionally more easily later on. However, as the authors point out, if they are not exposed to a certain amount of stressors and challenges, they do not seem to learn to tolerate adversity, adapt to stressful circumstances, and grow up. They get weaker. Some stress is good for you! 

This is a good illustration of what I call the “principle of opposite behaviors.” Two opposite but extreme approaches to life and parenting lead to the very same problem. In this case, people who act fragile. Parents who over-protect their children end up harming them and driving their emotional problems.

My view about the interpersonal processes involved here differs somewhat from that of the authors. I do not think these folks are usually as fragile as they might appear. I think they act that way because they believe that their parents need them to be that way so the parents can feel good about themselves.

Over-protective parenting has become epidemic in society. The authors go into several revealing reasons for this phenomenon, although they do not mention as one of these reasons what I believe to be a major contributor: Over the period from 1965 to today, the change in gender role expectations and the need for two career families has led parents to feel guilty about not being there as much for their kids. They make up for it by being overly solicitous. These guilty feeling are exacerbated by today's culture wars.

One of the odd things going on in college campuses lately stems directly from the parenting changes: the absurd emphasis on “triggers,” “microaggressions” and the need for “safe spaces.” What this means is that both the kids and the adults running the schools think that a kid can be literally traumatized by hearing someone’s conflicting opinion. Not just upset, annoyed or even angry about it, but literally traumatized. Scarred for life!

The professors who don’t believe this to be the case feel intimidated and fearful for their jobs if they challenge this belief, and so they usually remain silent. This has led to something akin to a “speech police.” Speakers are prevented from coming to campus by occasionally violent protesters, and well-meaning professors and administrators have been fired for using the wrong word in something they wrote. The authors give several truly frightening examples.

This culture is completely the opposite of the culture that led to the “free speech movement” at the University of California in Berkeley in the mid 1960’s. Human knowledge advances by the free exchange of ideas as well as challenges to those ideas. That idea used to be at heart of the philosophy of higher education in the United States, but in many cases it seems to have disappeared.

Particularly enlightening – and frightening – is the book’s chapter on witch hunts. These occur when “A community becomes obsessed with religious or ideological purity, and believes it needs to find and punish enemies within its own ranks in order to hold itself together” (p.99). If someone offers any kind of differing viewpoint, they become the enemy. Everything starts to reek of “Us versus Them,” and the idea that people are either good or evil, and everyone seems to assume the worst about almost everyone else.

Thursday, October 11, 2018

Another Pharma Trick for Overstating the Effectiveness of their Drugs: The Will Rogers Phenomenon



Will Rogers

Big Pharma has a number of ways, many of which have been described in this blog, of making their drugs look a lot better than they actually are. And some psychotherapy researchers use the techniques to push their favored school of thought. I recently came across another one of which I wasn’t aware. 

It is easiest to see with drugs used for cancer chemotherapy, but can be applied in other cases.

It is called the Will Rogers phenomenon (and is also called Stage Migration). It is an apparent epidemiological paradox. The Rogers reference comes from a remark made by the famed humorist Will Rogers about migration during the American economic depression of the 1930's: "When the Okies left Oklahoma and moved to California, they raised the average intelligence level in both states."

With cancer drugs, it comes from changes over time in the way the severity of the disease is assigned to patients - how the various stages of a disease are determined in each case. (Stage I is when the cancer is smallest, has not spread, and is usually the most easily treated. Stage IV is the most advanced with metastases). The issue comes about because the technology for staging a cancer in a given patient has improved significantly. This can produce spurious improvements in stage-specific prognosis, even though the outcome of individual patients has not changed.

New imaging tools have allowed detection of cancer metastases before they became evident clinically. As a result, more patients are classified into the more severe metastatic disease stage from the less severe single tumor stage. Such a 'stage migration' resulted in an improved survival of patients in both the less and the more severe disease stages. (Multiple sclerosis is another disease where this sort of thing has taken place).

Some studies compare a new treatment to the treatment of so-called historical controls who had received other treatments. This is usually done because carrying out placebo-controlled studies in potentially dying patients is unethical. The Will Rogers phenomenon is recognized as one of the most important biases limiting the use of historical controls groups in experimental treatment trials. 

Essentially, the use of different diagnostic criteria may generate spurious improvements in the medium-term prognosis which then may be wrongly interpreted as treatment effects.

In psychiatry and psychology, placebo controlled studies can be done ethically, but a variation of the Will Rogers phenomenon can still take place because of how rigorously DSM diagnostic processes are applied to patients. When I first started training, the criteria for major depression and mania were rigorously applied in treatment studies; now they are often applied sloppily – on purpose. 

Chronic unhappiness, which may respond very well to cognitive behavioral psychotherapy, is often now misdiagnosed as the more serious major depressive disorder. If you have a bunch of those folks in your psychotherapy outcome study, CBT can be “shown” to be effective in major depression by including people in your study who really don’t have major depression.

The more serious depressions respond better to antidepressant medications. Since most antidepressants are now generic, drug companies who want doctors to use other, more profitable drugs like Latuda can do the same thing to “show” that antidepressants are actually less effective than they actually are. Placebo response rates in antidepressant studies have gone up about 10% every decade, and this is what I believe to be the reason.