The serenity prayer:
God grant me the serenity to accept the things
I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the
difference.
When I read psychotherapy journals and posts on psychotherapy list-serves, it often sounds to me like the field has lost its collective mind. Some authors seem to think that every behavioral syndrome results entirely from some deficiency within a person, rather than being mostly a reaction to their social environment (the fundamental attribution error). If their patients are upset or anxious, they ask them things such as what is wrong with your thoughts or why they don’t know how to calm yourself down (cognitive behaviorists). Or what might be their deep-seated desires that they won’t face (psychodynamic therapists).
(To be clear I’m not talking about major psychiatric disorders that are most likely real brain diseases such as schizophrenia).
While these types of questions can be helpful for people who are not very disturbed about their lives and relationships, sometimes their use has been comical. As a psychiatrist named Jim Dillon put it:
“As a psychiatrist, I
cringe upon hearing recommendations for psychotherapeutic methods employed to
resolve ongoing social conflicts. It is like suggesting labor unions obtain
group counseling when the threat of a strike is the only strategy that will improve
their economic circumstances.”
Or teaching clients “mindfulness” when they are being invalidated,
criticized or abused by their family and spouses - instead of helping them learn how to put a stop
to the dysfunctional interactions.
As
I described in a previous post, more systemic or social types of therapy that involve family members
(family systems therapy), while still out there and being employed by masters’
level therapists, have fallen out of favor with psychologists. And they were
never taught to psychiatry trainees at all (except in a residency program that
I ran). This has occurred because of a number of social issues. Examples: Feminists thought
systems people were blaming just women, who are still the primary caretakers for
children; some folks believed that there were people using the “abuse excuse” for criminal behavior
and to avoid taking any personal responsibility for their problems; unscrupulous therapists were uncovering “false memories” of abuse through
suggestions to the highly suggestible, as well as through hypnosis.
That
last one also points to another issue that shows the field’s current state is
more political than scientific. Just
because some of the ideas therapists' used for problematic behavior were being misused in some contexts does not
automatically make them invalid. Furthermore, if some of aspects of complex
theories are wrong, that hardly means that all of them are wrong.
These phony arguments are also used to further the financial interests of pharmaceutical companies, who want to sell more pills. If everything is a disease, drugs should be all you need. They are also used by the medical insurance companies. These insurers refuse to pay for any longer-term psychotherapy treatments in order to better cash in. They only cover symptomatic treatment. Bogus “medical necessity” criteria are used to drastically cut down the number of sessions therapists can administer. In other words, the current models help the greedy. The federal parity law that says psychiatric disorders must be paid for by insurers just like physical disorders has been a complete joke.
Science
has clearly shown beyond a reasonable doubt that the structure of the “plastic”
human brain is in part shaped by interpersonal interactions. Most
of what we do in social situations is learned (or intuited as I believe some are), and is then done automatically in response to environmental clues. The brain has about
6 Billion neurons with up to a thousand connections each, and the circuits
change in response to what is learned. And learning also includes how to best react
to literally thousands of environmental factors operating at different times,
strengths and combinations.
An article published by Harvard
University Center for the Developing Child says that 700 new connections per second are made in the brains of newborns
within the context of care-giving relationships
Another recent study showed that small differences in a mom's
behavior early on in interactions with infants may possibly show up in child's epigenome
(epigenetics is the study of how genes are turned off and on in response to
such things as social interactions).
It is time for therapists to learn, not how to change their clients’ “internal” family system (another recent therapy fad), but how to help them react better to their external one.
Hi Dave, Idont believe in this mindfulness stuff either it is a bunch of new age fluff. I had an intrusive thought and this social worker told me to do minduflness. She said she had a thought about killing her husband and she told herself not today. What kind of way is that to deal with that.
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DeleteI sometimes feel like I am in the Twilight Zone with all these therapies and treatment methods when everyday language and a few skills will do. It drives me crazy at how cognitive therapy is sold when it is only good for some things some of the time not everything all of the time as it is often sold. I wanted your opinion on these therapists who say you have to go backwards in order to change or figure out problems. I think it is a load of psychodynamic mumbo jumbo which I believe to be pseudoscience. Even if you do figure it out then what. You still need a way to solve the problem. Living in the present moment HAS been proven by science to be the best way to live. People are happier and mentally healthier. Forgetting has been proven by science to stop PTSD, trauma, anxiety, depression. I know that because part of how I overcame my anxiety disorder was forgetting the experience I had and making a new one. I could see how unrealistic some of my thinking was and then I could see how realistic I became. I stuck to the reason and logic. Anxiety disorders are about thinking logically, attitude, realistic thinking, reasoning problem and gaining good judgement. The smarter you are the easier it is to overcome them. I could see this difference by some of the less intelligent folks I have met along the way who were diagnosed with anxiety disorder. I could always figure out how to reset the brain or how to get out of it and go on and they couldnt. I was very fortunate this way and I am forever grateful for that.
ReplyDeleteSounds like you were pretty good at doing cognitive therapy on yourself. You're right - it's not that complicated. And CBT absolutely exaggerates how effective it is.
DeleteNot sure what you mean by "going backward." I agree that you have to actively work in the present on any ongoing problems. However, if it's your family acting out and invalidating you constantly, it really helps to figure out how and why they got that way in order to change the relationship.