tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3125132926699584358.post3933889576145453360..comments2024-03-28T09:59:51.779-05:00Comments on Family Dysfunction and Mental Health Blog: The Terrible Twos... And Threes...In PerpetuityDavid M. Allen M.D.http://www.blogger.com/profile/06280912088483192599noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3125132926699584358.post-26076418994059097552012-06-06T08:20:43.645-05:002012-06-06T08:20:43.645-05:00Keeping kids at the center of parents attention al...Keeping kids at the center of parents attention all the time is very difficult, But we must try as best we can to get them under control and not leave them to their own liking, without interference from time to time, I think that raising children is the hardest thing facing parents especially in these days .Daoud Alahmadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05637206528734859451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3125132926699584358.post-3789481960785232522012-06-04T12:44:28.112-05:002012-06-04T12:44:28.112-05:00It may be normal in today's culture, but not n...It may be normal in today's culture, but not natural. In my practice, I see couples now who have not only raised (and enabled) their own kids and grandkids, but great grandchildren as well. What will happen when they're gone?doctorznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3125132926699584358.post-87108064176627587862012-05-30T21:26:34.154-05:002012-05-30T21:26:34.154-05:00I raised three children who are now all successful...I raised three children who are now all successful adults: a pharmacist, an international businessman, and a political science major who is a budding lawyer. We homeschooled - and thank God it worked - LOL! I followed Dr. R. over the years, and the recurrent theme was "logical consequences". It worked then, and I'm certain it would work now for these young parents. PS-My years as a flower child (in Hawaii during the late 60's) was a time to explore the accepted status quo and to question the Vietnam War. Nonconformity comes in the questioning, I think.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3125132926699584358.post-39079264902577211812012-05-29T23:42:48.099-05:002012-05-29T23:42:48.099-05:00:) You know...I get what your saying. And I do thi...:) You know...I get what your saying. And I do think that there is way too much overparenting these days. I'm in my 20s and I feel that way about teenagers and middle schoolers that I have come into contact with. I feel like they have been infantilized by their parents. It's actually a little strange for me, because I knew their parents when I was a kid (before the parents had their own kids). And I feel like their standard of maturity was really high for me when I was growing up, but they have really low standards for their own kids...<br /><br />But I also know that if you were to look at me, you would probably think that I haven't matured as fast as you did in your 20s. And I'm sure your parents or grandparents thought you didn't grow up as fast as them. I think it's just natural for newer generations to grow up slower.Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06030949818467743750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3125132926699584358.post-39273916569719317252012-05-29T21:16:45.211-05:002012-05-29T21:16:45.211-05:00I was more of an observer of the hippies than an a...I was more of an observer of the hippies than an actual participant. It seems that I didn't conform enough to their "non-conformity" to suit their taste. <br /><br />Thankfully, some parents today are still like the one you saw in that store.David M. Allen M.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06280912088483192599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3125132926699584358.post-31937410916161016682012-05-29T20:45:10.370-05:002012-05-29T20:45:10.370-05:00Geez, Dr. Allen, I would never have taken you for ...Geez, Dr. Allen, I would never have taken you for an old hippie.<br /><br />Is saying "no" really that difficult for contemporary parents? I was in a store recently, a child was carrying on about something, and his mother said "No, you get what you get."<br /><br />That seemed a very constructive response to me.Iatrogeniahttp://survivingantidepressants.orgnoreply@blogger.com