tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3125132926699584358.post2775628303862485068..comments2024-03-18T22:10:40.998-05:00Comments on Family Dysfunction and Mental Health Blog: The Mother Teresa ParadoxDavid M. Allen M.D.http://www.blogger.com/profile/06280912088483192599noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3125132926699584358.post-69001392624340751882013-12-03T07:15:52.691-06:002013-12-03T07:15:52.691-06:00A recent book titled "Pathological Altruism&q...A recent book titled "Pathological Altruism" by Barbara Oakley further expands on this important theme. http://online.wsj.com/news/articles/SB10001424127887324688404578545523824389986<br /><br />Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10116463853452010663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3125132926699584358.post-58604290051020456032010-05-12T12:49:29.719-05:002010-05-12T12:49:29.719-05:00Very well put, David. I thought that worrying and...Very well put, David. I thought that worrying and saving my daughter was necessary for her and my well-being; in the end, she did what she wanted to do anyway, and I gave up any quality of life whatsoever,and resented my daughter terribly through it all. Now that I have changed my outlook, I am much happier and more fulfilled, and she...does whatever she was going to do anyway. However, our relationship is undergoing a rebalancing of sorts...just the other day, she commented that she didn't understand why I no longer worried about her. My answer: worrying didn't accomplish anything good, and made her unhappy in the bargain because she would then worry about me. Additionally, worrying made me a very unhappy person. So, taking a non-worry approach leaves me happier--that is, it at least accomplishes something positive. BTW, I found out that worrying gave me the illusions of having some power over situations. This was the key to my being able to turn things around. AnnaAnnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10445351015081407295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3125132926699584358.post-78322234663759792942010-05-12T05:01:11.138-05:002010-05-12T05:01:11.138-05:00"The eyes are the window of the soul." E..."The eyes are the window of the soul." English ProverbMark p.s.2https://www.blogger.com/profile/10529811159862096782noreply@blogger.com