tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3125132926699584358.post2568383370232300099..comments2024-03-28T02:01:21.139-05:00Comments on Family Dysfunction and Mental Health Blog: Guest Post: Always the MediatorDavid M. Allen M.D.http://www.blogger.com/profile/06280912088483192599noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3125132926699584358.post-16873682490473484412020-10-23T09:38:05.646-05:002020-10-23T09:38:05.646-05:00This has truly helped me reading this. I have been...This has truly helped me reading this. I have been the middle my whole life but for me it is my siblings. 6 of us total and 2 don't talk anymore. I have always been the one trying to help everyone because I was the one everyone went to. I had a recent break down due to this. I looked up stuff and this popped up and I am so happy I have. I have always been the person to put family first and always try to please all my siblings and care for them. But at this point I have to let go. I have to let them deal with there own battles and at this point not let them pull me in either. <br />Thank you. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03691369428063825271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3125132926699584358.post-79928758288360309342014-07-08T07:09:32.348-05:002014-07-08T07:09:32.348-05:00I was in a similar role in my family, the role of ...I was in a similar role in my family, the role of people pleaser. It was my job to make everyone feel better about themselves, give them that one significant ego boost they were searching for that would re-establish their sense of worth. For both my parents, the main service I provided was heroically contradicting them when they argued for their martyr-like failures as people. I have since stopped providing this service, and our relationship has become quite dead. Dad is completely disinterested in someone who isn't providing a service, and, perhaps not surprisingly, I feel like a traitor. So while, as Ms. Hardway realized, there is no real satisfaction in playing out the family role, there is also no discernible satisfaction in not playing it out, either. CBnoreply@blogger.com